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Jenny Eden Coaching

JENNY EDEN COACHING

The Audacity of Body Love

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chastise my body for not complying to the norms of my typical weight loss trajectories.  “What?” I would say.  “Last time I dieted, I lost 5 pounds the first week, and now it\'s only 3!  What’s wrong with me?”  I would wonder. </span>\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I didn’t stop to honor what was my reality right now: That my 41 year old body was different than my 31 year old body.  That the body that hadn’t yet <a href=\"http://jennyedencoaching.com/baby-bump-wellness\">housed 3 babies</a> was different than one that carried my 3 beautiful daughters.  I didn’t think to think that nothing was wrong with me and that was simply what the behaviors I did that week earned me.  I didn’t realize that it needn’t be a call to arms or a redoubling of efforts to accomplish what once was.  I didn’t understand that I didn\'t need to bully myself through excessive, stressful exercise or by skipping dinner that night.  I learned later that those games merely set me back further and made me miserable, resentful and irritable.</span>\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Let me save you the element of surprise:</span>\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your body won’t always cooperate with your timelines, your judgements of what is successful or adjust itself to your external whims and expectations.  Your body, thankfully, is smarter than that and above all else wants to protect you.  </span></h2>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n[bctt tweet=\"Your body won’t always cooperate with your timelines\" username=\"coachjennyeden\"]\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What it will do, however, is communicate with you, give you feedback and teach you how to care for it - your job in return is to listen closely, honor and trust what it tells you.  For it’s this intrinsic wisdom and deep listening that ultimately and completely bring you happiness in your skin - apart from the \"shoulds,\" stories and beseeching.  </span>\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">After a lot of soul-searching, I realized that my body only cooperated when I cooperated and “<a href=\"http://jennyedencoaching.com/stop-bullying-your-body\">played nice</a>” with it.  When I jettisoned my own version of what my body should be and honored, loved and accepted what it actually is, I finally found peace and freedom.  </span>\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It was this paradigm shift that changed everything for me.  And it can for you too.</span>\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How many “shoulds” have you placed on your body today?  This week?  This lifetime?  </span>\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don’t belabor what your body is not doing or how it is not cooperating and shift your thinking towards how you can cooperate with it.  Where can you dig in, get curious, and start listening? 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I always have a new spring in my step when I’ve taken the time to groom or outsource my grooming even though sometimes I feel that it’s indulgent or even a chore to do it.</span>\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Grooming can sometimes get mixed up with doing it someone else in your life, or even to meet societal standards and expectations.  For me, it’s a powerful self-care technique when it\'s solely about you and how you want to feel about your body and in your body.</span>\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h1><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">2. Nutritional self-care</span></h1>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Fueling your body with <a href=\"http://jennyedencoaching.com/recipes/coconut-vegetable-tofu-stew\">macronutrient balanced foods</a> and even the act of cooking can be incredibly grounding and nourishing for many people.  For me, cooking a vegan, balanced and delicious meal each night is the ultimate gift to myself and fills me with joy.</span>\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Sometimes nutritional self-care can mean making yourself a homemade meal or a macro bowl with superfoods.  Sometimes nutritional self-care means indulging in a donut and doritos. Honoring what you need physically AND emotionally are equally important but sometimes conflict with one another.  That is ok. Pick which will serve you best at any given time.</span>\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h1><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">3. Spiritual self-care</span></h1>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Connecting with source, the universe, God, nature or any other definition of spirituality to you can leave us with a sense of humility and put things in perspective for us.  It can help us not sweat the small stuff and leave us feeling content and even effervescent. </span>\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This can mean meditating, praying, going to church or temple or even just being in nature.  However you connect with and define spirituality to you counts.</span>\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">4. Community/relationship self-care</span>\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> We are a social species.  We cannot go at it alone for too long.  Most of us need human interactions and connections to keep us from feeling isolated or misunderstood.  Talking with someone or being in the right community can fill us up like nothing else. For me, a girls weekend with the people who truly get me, love me and respect me can leave me on a high for weeks.</span>\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<img class=\"aligncenter wp-image-2415\" src=\"http://jennyedencoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/06/self-care-quote.jpg\" alt=\"types of self-care\" width=\"692\" height=\"461\" />\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h1><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">5. Introvert self-care</span></h1>\r\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And yet, many of us are also introverts of ambiverts where we crave and derive energy from both other people and being alone.  Self-care sometimes just means taking some time in a quiet, solitary space to reflect, meditate, read, journal or just be.</span>\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h1><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">6. Movement and physical activity self-care</span></h1>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Taking the time to move in a way that makes your body feel alive and embodied is critical for our physical and mental well-being.  Instead of forcing yourself to exercise, try a self-care version of movement and tune in to the ways you like to move your body naturally.  Is it through dance? Walking? Hiking? Soul cycle? For me self-care around movement is about honoring where my body is at and what ways it feels like moving that day.</span>\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h1><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">7. Organizational self-care</span></h1>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When I look at my messy desk or a pile of clothes on the ground, I am filled with dread and even anxiety.  I don’t know if it’s the overwhelm at the mundane tasks that need to get done around the house or the sheer defiance of not wanting to do the chores by myself, but either way organizing and cleaning my work space, my home, my car can feel like punishment.  But, I concede that the way I feel after I do the work and am left with a clean, simplified and organized space is unparalleled. There is definitely some truth to the idea that a clean, clear space equals a clean and clear mind unfettered by the overwhelm of clutter.  I tend to be more creative, more productive and feel absolutely amazing when I have taken that upfront time to get my household organizational needs squared away. 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Self-love

 

Women and girls are not supposed to love their bodies.  We were taught that at a very young age.  No, it’s not like there was a class in school called “Hating your Body 101” or anything.  No, these messages were much more under the surface and almost subliminal.  They came in the more tacit form of seeing our Moms frantically dieting before a big event (something must be wrong if Mom feels like needs to change her body. Note to young impressionable self: Dieting is important, changing your body is important).

 

And it came fast and furious at you with what you watched in the media and in magazines.  Where are all the heroines with varicose veins, warts, alopecia and cellulite?  Name all the movies you saw as a kid where the larger or older women were courted by the seemingly perfect masculine heart throb.

 

And it came from our peers.  How many times did you complement your friend(s) only to have her (them) deflect that complement and come back with a reason why what you just said isn’t true.  

 

While we all claim to want to have self-confidence we also fear being TOO confident (arrogant) and relishing too much in our beauty.  Essentially, we can’t win.  Apparently someone is giving out awards for being humble to the extreme and shaking off words of admiration.  How can we actually find that sweet spot of pure, simple body love that is just for ourselves with nothing to prove to anyone else?  

 

There is a poignant article from CNN about the surprising things hospice workers hear from their dying patients.  In addition to the regrets over not spending enough time loving, traveling, or pursuing their passions, one thing stuck out most of all: They regretted not appreciating the fact that they had an amazing bodily vessel to live out their lives.  They felt deep sadness at having to leave that magnificent and underappreciated body.  They wished they had embodied their bodies more while they could.  They recognized all the incredible things their bodies could do: house babies, make love, go swimming, dance.  And most of all they felt grief that they would have to leave that corporeal house with all of those glorious sensations.  One woman was quoted as saying:

 

“I know I’m supposed to hate my body. (sic) Everyone told me — my family, my school, my church. When I got older, magazines and salesgirls and boyfriends (told me), even if they didn’t say so out loud. The world’s been telling me for 75 years that my body is bad. First for being female, then for being fat and then for being sick. But the one thing I never did understand is, why does everyone else want me to hate my body? What does it matter to them?” (source:http://www.cnn.com/2014/10/16/health/dying-regret-body-hate/index.html)

 

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What does it matter to them indeed.  It’s time to pull the veil around why women and girls feel such an ardent desire to change their bodies and not accept themselves as they are.  Without placing the blame on one entity entirely I have found that it has to do, in part, with the way our societal social and power structures have been set up where the patriarchy relies on women to stay small (figuratively).  If women and girls are too busy overexercising, counting calories and obsessing about food (or lack thereof) then we certainly can’t find the time necessary to run for office, become a engineer or write a best-selling novel with the same gusto, drive and passion than that woman who is steeped in self-love, self-worth and deep unrelenting confidence in her interior and exterior can.  I am not saying this is conscious, vindictive or sinister.  

 

No, it’s way way below the surface where people often don’t explore.  It shows up in subtle ways that gets internalized early and often and which can become so powerful that it’s hard to wake up from.  It’s not about conscious and willful shunning of diverse women of all shapes, colors, weights and ages. (although that does happen regularly) but about the underlying fear of losing one’s standing in society, of insecurity of shifting values and beliefs and the fear of being usurped.

 

Plainly stated, women are still not willing to fully step into their power, beauty and confidence.

We are just now slowly starting to see a seismic shift with this.  This is certainly a watershed moment surrounding the #metoo movement and the insurgence of the body-positive world which is active, brazen and growing every day.  Women are starting to become “woke” to these power structures and are taking action.  

 

These actions show up in myriad ways including reporting inappropriate sexual behavior in the workplace without fear of retribution, claiming high-profile and powerful positions in virtually all fields and career paths and “leaning in”.  

 

It also shows up by giving the middle finger to dieting for good.

 

We used to burn bras in the 60’s to rebel and reveal our power.  Now we’re burning bridges and not afraid of those repercussions.

 

We all can rightfully own our beauty and self-worth.  

 

I give you permission to have the audacity of body-love, with no shame, no remorse and no apologizing.  

 

Post those selfies, savor that delicious food, and relish in everything your gorgeous body is capable of feeling and doing.

 

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2 thoughts on “The Audacity of Body Love

  1. Sarah Watson says:

    Beautiful post.

  2. Zarah says:

    So well said! I agree 100% with you on the fact that we should be able to celebrate ourselves- our bodies, our minds- without feeling scared to do so. You’re so tight that we are trained to hate our bodies and I think this year has been amazing in the sense hat many women are growing to love themselves more than ever.

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