Dr. Strangetush or “How I learned to stop worrying and love the bum”
Do you get the “Dr. Strange Tush” reference? If so, let me know!
For as far as I can remember, I’ve known I have had a distinctive backside. See this picture?
I think I am 7 years old here and I clearly remember being self-conscious when someone (the woman taking the photo) told me to turn around. I thought, foolishly, that she was staring at my big butt.
This self-consciousness continued and grew for years. In junior high school, friends remember me never wanting to take off my big bulky coat in the winter. I know why, but didn’t admit it at the time. I was ashamed of my body, and ashamed of how big my bottom was and I wanted it covered at all times.
As I got older, this fear mitigated a bit as I slowly learned to hate other part of my body as well. “Look at my huge thighs” or “wow, my arms are so fat!” were common mantras in my head or shared with friends. It almost didn’t matter that my butt was big because everything else seemed to match it!
Even though the backside positive anthem, “Baby Got Back” became very popular by that time, – I was oblivious to the benefits of a big booty.
It wasn’t until Jennifer Lopez came onto the scene in the late 1990’s that I realized that a distinctive booty was actually something that was considered sexy and beautiful. Something that some men loved and women coveted!
You can imagine how floored I was then when this amusing product came out into the market. An article of clothing that was specifically for women to give them a bigger bum– something I had naturally!
Now a days, it’s commonplace to see celebrities galore flaunting their “assets” from Jennifer Lopez to Kim Kardashian, its everywhere you look. We even have the marvelous Meghan Trainor singing that it’s ALL about that bass.
I am not going to say that I don’t have days still where I feel self conscious about my tush and how it seems to have an entity and identity all it’s own following me around all over the place. But I have grown comfortable in my skin and have learned to love my hourglass shape and more importantly the power and strength that I have built doing squats, single leg dead lifts and kettle bell swings! It may be large but it is in charge!
I even forced myself recently to model nude for a photographer friend who specializes in artistic nudes. This was extremely hard for me to do but very healing and freeing at the same time. My friend, who shot a bunch of my backside including my bum, certainly showed a side of me that I had never seen or considered before in a positive way. To check out my friend Abby’s beautiful work, click here. (No, it’s not of me, silly!)
So, now, instead of the constant negative self-talk and self-consciousness, I focus on the wise words of Sir Mix-a-lot: “So Cosmo says you’re fat? Well I ain’t down with that.” “You can do side bends or sit-ups, but please don’t lose that butt!”
Ok, Sir Mix-a-lot. If you say so.
Ending the negative self-talk and learning to have a positive relationship with your body is so important and a major part of what I help women and men with in my one-on-one coaching. Want to learn some tips how? Download my 30 minute presentation called, The Body Image Blueprint today and let’s get you loving your body the way it deserves.